By The Way (part 3)

By The Way (part 3)

CONFUSION can lead us to solution. When we deeply think of a problem, we go into the bottom of it. Sometimes we realized our confusion is just nothing or if it’s real then why it has been raised. Sometimes this confusion combating struggles can force us take serious or disastrous or may not be disastrous steps in our lives. Again this disastrous word is also very confusing because whatever is disastrous for me might be good for someone else’s life or it’s just the matter of perception.

I thought to write about the confusions coming into young people’s lives how well or how not so well, they are dealing with it. “The Meenu” has decided to take a break from a confusing chapter of her life. “The Rajesh “and “The Rahul” are also winding up one confusing tale. “The Seema” has already taken big step and moved forward. It will be too early to say whether they ending a confusing tale or starting another. Well I always wish good luck to them.

But then suddenly a twist happened into the story. “The Rajesh “decided to stay back. I guess this is the heights of confusion.

It’s been 2 years since these young people have been working in a team of 6 people and making documentary films for community. They were seemed to be happy with their job roles. All of a sudden they felt off from this. The reason; I received confusing answers.

I tried to dig out the confusion and in the depth of this dark confusion there was an answer (or may not be an answer but something leading towards finding answer). This answer is a reflection for all of us who speak a lot on the welfare of underprivileged and marginalized people and pretend that they can change their lives.

These people came here having a dream in their eyes. It proved a fancy world to them. Before coming here they lived in their own world where everyone was equal to them. It’s a simple psychology that we relate with similar people who have similar set of life style and similar set of issues in their lives.

Then they came out of that nest and came among a different set of people and environment. It was proved a fancy world for them. They started liking it. Soon they started dreaming, that they can change theirs as well others’ lives by their work. A big dream to chase….. I’m not demoralizing such people by saying that, it’s just a practical statement.

Well, they really tried hard to make this dream come true. But external factors pulled them downwards. AND these external factors came from nowhere but from all of us who brag to be social workers. We really need to rethink how we treat these people. Are we making them see false dreams? Are we expecting too much of them? Are we forcing them to perform beyond their limitations? Are we considering them as investment commodities or simply whoever they are realistically?

Let’s be honest this time. Our own confusion can create confusions for others, the people who look up to us for inspiration.

By the way, it’s time for accepting that more than them, we are confused.